THE NARRATIVE WE KNOW TOO WELL
Allow me to take you on a brief journey as we follow the somewhat typical lifestyle of Person A, we'll call them PA for short. Here's the thing about PA, they have their life together, kind of. Most days feel pretty chaotic but stuff gets done.
They feel somewhat successful within the daily minutia and yeah there are things that get overlooked but it's because they are super busy, and busy feels good, it makes them feel needed, important... like they're really making daily progress toward... whatever it is they are reaching for.
Busy also feels safe (but they aren't aware of this yet).
Busy means they always have something they have to be doing which means its okay that they haven't taken time for other things, like fully grieving the death of their father, sitting down with themselves and setting solid personal boundaries (especially with their friendships), and truly taking a look at what they stand for.
Life feels simple enough and the chaos is fun, adventurous, who wants to have it all together anyway?
But then PA goes through a pretty big life change.
Suddenly there's now even MORE chaos, details, and things to tackle, but the structure is now taken away.
All those issues of the past seem like a dream compared to the things PA has to tackle now, without guidance.
PA finds themselves in a new chapter of their lives feeling completely... lost and honestly, pretty damn helpless.
It's a whirlwind of self-doubt, frustration, resentment, and an unrelenting feeling that no one else could possibly understand.
PA can't seem to keep up with their former way of doing things because mentally, they are overwhelmed, exhausted, coping, and straight up scared that life may never be as easy and fun ever again.
In fact, daily tasks and sometimes basic self-care feel like HUGE goals and their energy and ability to focus is draining by the minute.